Every year, on the day after the NFL regular season ends, a notorious event occurs: Black Monday. This day is infamous for the mass turnover of coaches across the league, many of whom are let go due to not meeting expectations. While it’s undoubtedly a tough experience, history shows that these setbacks often lead to new and better opportunities for those coaches. Bill Belichick, Andy Reid, Tony Dungy, Jimmy Johnson — These are just a few examples of NFL coaches who have achieved great things after being fired on Black Monday.
As a recruiting leader with over two decades of experience, I’ve had the privilege of working alongside countless leaders from various industries who’ve faced the challenge of being let go. These conversations are always meaningful, as I strive to provide support and guidance to help them navigate this difficult transition.
In honor of Black Monday, let’s explore a playbook for bouncing back after being fired and turning what could be seen as a “turnover” into a personal “touchdown.”
1. Remember, it’s just one play in the game of your career.
The way we frame our setbacks plays a crucial role in our recovery. One of my favorite books, “Failing Forward” by John Maxwell, emphasizes the importance of not letting failures define us. Instead, we should view them as stepping stones on our path to success. Remember, you’re not defined by your failures but by your resilience and perseverance in the face of them.
2. Don’t rush into the next play: Take time to assess the situation and explore your next move.
It’s tempting to jump at the first opportunity that comes your way but resist the urge if it’s financially possible. Take this time to reflect on your career and assess your goals and aspirations. What did you enjoy about your previous role? What aspects could have been improved? Answering these questions will help you identify the right fit for your next move.
3. Be coachable: Check your ego at the door.
Humility is key to navigating this challenging situation. Instead of blaming others or dwelling on negativity, take ownership of your contributions to the situation and be open to feedback. Reflecting with humility allows you to identify areas for improvement and approach future endeavors with a growth mindset.
4. Conduct a post-game review and reflect on what happened.
Take some time to analyze what led to your termination. Was it performance-related? Personality clashes? External factors? Be honest with yourself and acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. This self-reflection will help you learn from your experience and develop strategies for future success.
5. Take what you’ve learned into the next quarter or second half.
Grieve the loss of your position, but don’t let it define you. Allow yourself to process the situation while simultaneously focusing on your future. Remember, the lessons from this experience will become invaluable assets in your continued professional development.
6. Huddle up with others and seek feedback from trusted sources.
Surround yourself with supportive individuals who can offer valuable insights and perspectives. Ask colleagues, mentors, or even former employees for their honest feedback on your strengths, weaknesses, and leadership style. This external perspective can be incredibly helpful in identifying areas for growth.
7. Don’t be afraid to call a “career audible.”
With one door closed, another opens. This unexpected change presents a unique opportunity to explore new possibilities and reconnect with your passions. Take time for personal reflection to identify your long-term career goals and aspirations. If your assessment reveals a need for change, don’t be afraid to call an “audible.” Make adjustments to your life plan and pursue what truly excites you.
8. Look for small, simple ways to start moving the chains.
Refrain from diving headfirst into a major change. Instead, embrace the concept of “firing bullets, not cannonballs,” as author Jim Collins suggests. Start by engaging in small, focused activities that align with your passions and goals. This could involve volunteering, taking online courses, or attending industry events. These incremental steps will lead you toward your desired outcome.
Getting Back in the Game: Personal Evaluation & Reflection Questions
Career transitions are a natural part of life. Sometimes, they require us to step back and ask ourselves some tough questions. These questions can help you gain clarity on your current path and determine if it aligns with your values, passions, and desires.
- Were you fulfilled in the kind of work you were doing? What aspects of the job did you enjoy?
- Were there signals that the job wasn’t the right fit, or were there areas where improvement was needed?
- Does your career path align with your long-term goals and aspirations?
- Does your current path leverage your strengths and align with your authentic self?
- Are there opportunities to utilize your strengths in a different environment?
- Reflecting on your previous role… Did you approach your work the way you thought you should? Or did you do it the way you thought someone else should? What would you want to do differently next time?
- Is now the right time to pursue something different? Are you and your family willing to sacrifice to pursue your desires?
Remember, being fired does not define you. It’s an opportunity to learn, grow, and ultimately achieve greater success. Following this playbook and having the right mindset can transform this “turnover” into your personal “touchdown.” May you embrace the possibilities and write your own comeback story.
By Kent Wilson